Dating is hell

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I've had guys talk of it to me. I don't know why. I think it was just to play games.

It's a pretty shitty game though. Even if I couldn't do much about such a thing at the time, it's still not nice to fill someones head with things and not mean them. Its not nice the other way around either for that matter. But most people if not all I've met, love to mess around with my heart and my feelings. It's whatever. I just know it's pretty much a game, and nothing more. =)

[Lyonardo]

Now the question is how to know if someone is playing games or not.

Humans can be so complicated

[7224]

You don't know. So it's best to assume they are. At least this has been my experience. Even the last guy... repeated over and over again how he was being "honest" ...... lol.

Maybe people have different definitions for words like, honesty, love and respect to name a few?

[Lyonardo]

I don't know what to think really...

But I wonder how fullfilling playing games can be in the long term...theres a thin line between a game and deception just for the sake of it.

[7224]

I don't think everyone is sincere about their feelings and are willing to see how far they can take someone under such assumptions. It helps fluff their egos and have them feel wonderful about themselves.

I once had a bf who later asked me "what makes you think I'm not some guy who just wants to see how much I can hurt you?"

I don't think everyone has the same intentions when it comes to such things.

Trust plays a very big part in that. And even if you do trust that person, they still can be playing a very good game.

I also am not the kind of person who dives into things so fast with ideas of a forever. That is what usually can end things for me too because I'm not so head over heals like he is, and to him it will mean I'm not into him or don't care or care as much...which isn't the case at all.

I'm 20. I don't want to be your gf for 6mos. and have someone get so about 6 months.
Ugh.

[tension]

yah i've pondered the whole game aspect....which is why right now i think of things in a straightforward manner. as i'm maturing i suppose i'm realizing games are not my strong suit. as a matter of fact, i'm the complete opposite of games even though i have played them...and "won". my conscience is all-too-prepared to remind me that what i'm doing is "wrong".

so atm, i'm not dating. learning how to go about this without putting myself in a position where i feel guilty about my every move or feel like a loser for 'bending'.

so far i've come away with the notion that if it's hard, then i'm doing something wrong. : /

so i talk to the people i think may be interesting or spark an interest in me. beauty alone isnt' enough for me...neither is sex. but tbh....i went through a pretty serious end not long ago....very serious.....so i have reason to contemplate this tug - a - war we play with each other.

[7224]

Bah, I think I'll just get a puppy.

Good looks isn't enough for me either, but hell. I don't want ugly on the inside as well as the outside. I may be going for looks a bit more now a days....
I think I'm going to do something new too this time around. I usually ask a guy out because usually they won't. But I'm not asking this time around if there is one. Well, there was one not long ago that I said no to, but he left the friendship after that. But now he's back! and I'm glad because we get along very well..but I just wasn't attracted to him for some reason. Maybe I got to know him too much like a best friend?

But yep, I haven't dated anyone for 9 months. But I won't pass up someone nice either if they were interested!!

As I say though, this guy is very sweet...but so are those Lab puppies!

[Lyonardo]

Well I decided tonight that I've grown tired of this gaming shit.

Jesus, I just don't have the will nor the patience to deal with childish girls who don't know what they want. Besides filling their egos it seems....I'm not 18 anymore to stand this kind of crap.

I hate when people make promises they know they won't keep.


Had to vent.

[7224]

If someone has room for you in their life, and there it is known that there are good days and bad days ahead with the same kind of love and understanding with those days..maybe that can be a nice start. Nobody wants a partner in life who can't withstand the hard times, those who will fall apart so easy because it's a given there will be many in a life. But anymore it seems some people find it easier to walk away instead of walking ahead while taking baby steps. Nothing in any loving and understanding relationship will always come easy...but who is out there willing to work through those things as a together when it is so easy to leave as seperate?

It's just better to enjoy someone when you have them. In love, there is no such thing as a promise for some. Some will break every promise they ever made. When someone says "Im being honest" maybe that means the total opposite?

Maybe it's best to not talk! lol

I can't let those who fell short in their so called "honest love" keep me from what may be waiting for me some day...

[Lyonardo]

[7224]

Oh right..the cold feet can pull the stops on something really nice. Maybe people can only go so far in relationships. If she can't handle all the feelings love will bring out in her, both good and bad...at least she was honest enough to tell you...and now instead of some months or even yrs. later.

You have to take the chance and have a go at things, or you will never really know. To assume an outcome before actually playing it out is just silly, imo. Sometimes it just works out that way though.

I mean, what other way is there to validate your love for someone? If someone can't be there for the bad times, they shouldn't be there to enjoy the good times with you either. I'm sure something nice will happen for us. We just haven't met that special someone yet. But we will.




























.....and the world will end! =P

[Lyonardo]

I should have been careful..I remember thinking this was to good to be true, and I should've trusted my gut feeling.

It's too bad because she is pretty much what I looked for in a girl.I doubt I'll find someone so similar to me again.

Well, here's to a brighter future

[7224]

People are fickle., and now you're open to someone new who will be everything you want in a woman, plus more. We do surprise you guys sometimes.

[Lyonardo]

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